Ustadha Shazia Ahmad

April 6, 2024 2 mins

Should I Marry a Man Who Converted to Marry Me?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Can I marry my fiancé, who converted to Islam for our marriage but hasn’t learned about Islam properly yet? He’s unwilling to pray or fast but says he’s open to learning with a teacher. I’m worried if choosing him as a husband is a sin. Can I marry him […]
April 5, 2024 2 mins

How Can I Tell My Mother I Want to Raise a Family Instead of Having a Career?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question How can I express my desire to pursue marriage and a simple life to my mom without upsetting her? Considering my mom’s sacrifices for my future, is it reasonable to prioritize marriage and family over a career? Answer Mother Allah Most High has told us in the Quran, “And […]
April 5, 2024 1 min

Can You Recommend a Du’a to Find Ease in Practicing Religion?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Can You Recommend a Du’a to Find Ease in Practicing Religion? Answer Thank you for your question. I commend you for your sincere intention to live a religious lifestyle and I pray that Allah gives you that ease tenfold, such that you would not know or desire anything else. […]
April 5, 2024 4 mins

How Can I Convince My Parents to Let Me Marry Someone Who Is Not of Our Sufi Ord...

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question How Can I Convince My Parents to Let Me Marry Someone Who Is Not of Our Sufi Order? Answer Thank you for your question. I empathize with your suffering, and I pray that you can convince your parents that there is nothing wrong with your choice and that you […]
April 4, 2024 4 mins

How Do I Deal with the Guilt of My Extramarital Affair?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question As a Muslim woman, I committed zina 4.5 years ago, but postpartum depression intensified my guilt. Despite sincere repentance and daily prayers, the guilt persists, causing suicidal thoughts. Should I confess to my husband, and how do I cope? Answer Thank you for your question. May Allah reward you […]
March 31, 2024 3 mins

Should I Marry a Woman I Met Online Who Is Homeless and Has Herpes?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Should I marry a revert with genital herpes? If yes, normal or asexual marriage? Can Istikhara be done for these decisions? Answer Thank you for your question. May Allah reward you for wanting to help another in need and putting her needs before yours. Risky Although your intentions are […]
March 31, 2024 2 mins

What Should I Do Now That I Told My Potential Bride about My Past?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I am not married, and unfortunately, I committed fornication. It was not intentionally done. I met a religious girl for marriage, and I told her about my sin. She said she didn’t want to give me a second chance because although I am a true believer, I don’t match […]
March 30, 2024 1 min

Is It Permissible to Wear Beautiful, Fashionable Abayas?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Is it allowed to wear a fashionable abaya in Islam? Answer Thank you for your question. It is permissible to wear anything loose, long, and not transparent while keeping in mind the cultural clothing and traditions of one’s area. Always err on the side of modesty; consult other religious […]
March 30, 2024 3 mins

Did My Relationship End Because Allah Is Forsaking Me?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I’ve always sought true love, but after a two-year relationship, we broke up today. I long for someone who loves me genuinely. Will I ever find someone who won’t hurt me? Today, I sobbed so much during my prayers that I couldn’t finish my dua. Has Allah forsaken me? […]
March 30, 2024 2 mins

Should I Marry a Boy Who Insists That He Will Kill Himself I Don’t?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Should I marry the boy in my area who threatens suicide if I refuse, despite his history of attempts, doctors suggesting marriage or hospitalization, and his family’s proposal, considering the mental distress and fear I face? Answer Thank you for your question. May Allah reward you for worrying about […]
March 30, 2024 3 mins

Should I Be Worried about Proposing to a Girl Who Might Not Be a Virgin?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question My mother found a potential spouse for me who wears hijab, prays, and has good morals. However, before becoming more religious, she had a past meeting with a man, details of which she’s reluctant to disclose due to embarrassment. I’m concerned about potential fornication. How should I approach this […]
March 30, 2024 1 min

Is It Right to Make Du’a to Attain Overly Ambitious Goals?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Is it permissible for Muslims to pray for ambitious goals, like wealth to help the umma or a profession to save lives? Though I aim to assist the umma, I wonder if praying for goals beyond my capabilities is appropriate. Answer Thank you for your question. May Allah reward […]
March 30, 2024 1 min

Will I Be Responsible for the Fights between the Man I Love and His Wife?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I was emotionally involved with a married man but ended things and repented to Allah. However, I worry about the potential consequences, like fights or divorce in his marriage, due to our past actions. Will Allah hold me accountable for these despite repentance? Answer Thank you for your question. […]
March 30, 2024 3 mins

Am I Sinful for Not Deleting My Siblings’ TikTok Accounts?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I have preteen siblings whose social media I monitor, and I allow them an hour every day only on those apps, but I know full well they don’t use it for good in an Islamic sense. They are exposed to music, opposite-gender content, pop culture, celebrity worship, movies and […]
March 30, 2024 2 mins

How Can I Go Through a Forced Engagement Ceremony?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I’m 33, divorced without kids. Recently my parents talked to me about a 22-year-old man, and I refused as I did Istikhara. I don’t like him physically and my heart doesn’t accept him for some reason. I don’t know why my dad accepted their proposal. I don’t want this. […]
March 20, 2024 3 mins

How Do I Deal with a Husband Who Gives Little and Takes Much?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question How should I address the imbalance in my marriage where I provide financially and emotionally while my husband contributes minimally and demands intimacy on his terms, including demanding oral sex, making me feel uncomfortable? Answer Thank you for your question. Your husband is not fulfilling your basic rights, and […]
March 20, 2024 2 mins

Is It True That My Parents Get My Sins If I Don’t Marry?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Is it true that parents will receive their child’s sins if the child does not marry in Islam? My father insists on me marrying despite my asexuality, claiming it’s religiously obligatory. How can I make him understand my lack of attraction and the implications of marrying against my nature? […]
March 20, 2024 2 mins

Should I Listen to My Friend’s Stories about the Guys She Chats With?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question My Muslim friend engages in haram behavior by talking to guys online despite my warnings. Should I inquire about the guys she talks to, or would that encourage her sinful behavior? Would I be sinful for asking her about them? Answer Thank you for your question. I empathize with […]
March 19, 2024 2 mins

What Can I Do Struggling in My Home Town to Find a Teacher?

Answered by Mawlana Ilyas Patel Question Can you recommend reliable teachers in Gloucester, UK, for my 12-year-old son? He’s become distant from the Din since moving here. There are no Dhikr gatherings, and most Masjids teach in Urdu. I need help keeping the kids interested in Islam as they grow older. Answer In the Name […]
March 19, 2024 2 mins

Should I Delete All the Posts That I See in Our Family Messaging Group?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question In our family WhatsApp group, my parents and I are admins, allowing us to delete messages. My father occasionally shares sinful content like music videos. I refrain from deleting them to avoid conflict and maintain our relationship. Should I delete these messages or silently object and leave them in […]
March 19, 2024 2 mins

Should I Stop Advising My Husband Who Doesn’t Fear God?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Should I stay silent about my husband’s haram actions to avoid arguments or continue advising him despite the risk of damaging our marriage? Answer Thank you for your question. I empathize with your frustration and pain at seeing your husband far away from Islam. You should make dua for […]
March 18, 2024 2 mins

Do I Have to Obey My Mother Who Doesn’t Let Me Cut My Hair?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Mom won’t let me cut my long hair short like I want. She says girls my age should have long hair and she likes it that way. But short hair would help with my dandruff and itchy scalp. I’ve explained this, but she keeps refusing. What can I do? […]
March 18, 2024 2 mins

Should I Marry a Girl Who Used to Drink and Smoke as I Am a Hafidh of Quran?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Can I overcome concerns about my partner’s past mistakes, including substance use, and prevent them from relapsing, given our own past mistakes, if we marry? Answer Thank you for your question. I empathize with your feelings of confusion and indecisiveness because one never really knows how a potential spouse’s […]
March 18, 2024 2 mins

Can I Get a Nose Job for My Husband as I Wear Niqab, Anyway?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Nothing is wrong with my nose medically, but can I get a nose job to please my husband? I wear a niqab, so non-mahrams don’t see me. Does the saying by `A’isha (Allah be well pleased with her) apply here, where she states if a woman could remove her […]
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