Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question I was engaged to a guy and my family later found out that that he has a past. My parents have refused to let him marry me, but I am already emotionally attached to him. I tried to convince them but it’s not working. Can I still marry […]

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question Religion has become really difficult for me. I fear becoming impure, which means I can’t offer my prayers. If my husband touches the phone after intimacy, I feel that impurity is transferred. I feel like impurity has traveled everywhere, and I keep cleaning. I feel Allah will not […]

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question I have a cousin who has always provoked negative feelings in me whenever I found myself around her. The breaking point for me was when she questioned me loudly and openly on a personal matter in a room full of people. My natural response is to cut off […]

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question How does one stop one’s husband from looking at porn and from masturbation? Is it permissible for a married man to do this? Answer I pray this finds you well. Pornography and masturbation are both impermissible for any Muslim, male or female, married or unmarried. Unfortunately, there is […]

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question 1) If I do not listen to my husband’s requests, even though it is within the bounds of the shariah, am I sinful? Does what he says become an obligation for me? 2)Is my husband obligated to serve my emotional needs (i.e. spending time with me, doing nice […]

Answered by Ustadha Raidah Shah Idil Question Is there a concept of “soulmates” in Islam? Has Allah already chosen our soul mate? I was in a relationship that was against the sharia, so I realized that I should stop it, but I still feel bad for ending the relationship. So to explain to that person […]