Why Is My Supplication for a Husband Not Being Answered?
Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad
Question
Why does Allah not hear my prayers?
I have been praying to Allah to send me the right man to marry for years now and I can’t help but start to think that my prayers are never going to be answered. I am 26 years old, I have a very good job (for which I am forever thankful to Allah) and feel that I am ready to complete the other half of my deen and start my own family. However, I am slowly starting to lose faith. I have been told many times that I am too picky and should just settle for anyone but I do not want to end up married to the wrong person or married just for the sake of being married. I want the right man, the man I ask Allah for. I want Allah to hear me.
Answer
Thank you for your question. You must not lose hope, nor become impatient, and you must continue to pray and be proactive about finding someone. I am certain that the right man will come, by Allah’s grace.
Patience
I know that you have been patient, but I ask that you continue to be patient and wait for Allah’s plan to come to pass. The Prophet (Allah bless him and give him peace), told us, “The supplication of one of you is granted if he does not grow impatient and say-I supplicated my Lord but it was not granted.“ [Muslim]
Pickiness
It is possible that you are picky, so you should really ask Allah to guide you to do what is right for you. It may be that a certain man is the perfect one for you, but you don’t see it because you cannot see beyond your conditions. I only say this because I know several couples who ended up marrying people that did not fulfill their conditions, but it didn’t matter, and they ended up very happy, anyway.
In the Meanwhile
During this time, don’t waste time, and ready yourself for marriage. Learn the skills required to manage a home well, and more importantly, take these marriage and fiqh courses and read the many useful answers linked below:
Absolute Essentials of Islam (Shafi‘i)
Marriage in Islam: Practical Guidance for Successful Marriage
40 Hadiths on Successful Marriage: Key Teachings of the Prophet on Beautiful, Loving, Caring Married Life
Keys to Successful Muslim Marriages: Practical lessons that explain the Prophetic Spirit of Marriage
Making Love Last: Prophetic Principles for a Successful Marriage
May Allah give you the best of this world and the next.
[Ustadha] Shazia Ahmad
Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani
Ustadha Shazia Ahmad lived in Damascus, Syria for two years where she studied aqidah, fiqh, tajweed, tafsir, and Arabic. She then attended the University of Texas at Austin, where she completed her Masters in Arabic. Afterward, she moved to Amman, Jordan where she studied fiqh, Arabic, and other sciences. She later moved back to Mississauga, Canada, where she lives with her family.
