Does Asking Someone About Marriage Have Any Consequence?
Answered by Mawlana Ilyas Patel
Question
I am single, suffer from severe misgivings, and struggle to cope. I know Islamic rulings, but when misgiving takes over, it’s like it’s all gone. Once, I asked someone to ask their family member to marry me. After a little while, I said to myself loudly, ‘I accept’ or ‘She’s my wife.’ I became very paranoid, thinking maybe the family had offered me the marriage, and I accepted with two witnesses who may have heard me when I said those words in my house. I was very stressed and decided to be on the safe side, so I said, ‘I have divorced you’ in Arabic just in case the marriage went through with that specific woman. I now fear that when I get married to any woman, these divorce words I used will come into effect as soon as I get married. Please help me. This makes no sense, but misgiving has overtaken me and made me say and do dumb things.
Answer
In the Name of Allah, the Most Merciful and Compassionate
I pray you are in good faith and health. Thank you for your question. May Allah, Most High, continue to increase you in sound faith and good actions.
You asked someone to ask a family member remained as a request. Nothing resulted after that consequence. You just followed up with your thoughts about the possible scenario of a marriage offer and acceptance. Therefore do not worry; remain assured. It will have no consequence in your marriage in the future. You are just having severe doubts.
Leave Your Doubts for Certainty in Truth
I would like to advise you to stop thinking in this way and remember this answer. The reality is that you are a single person who is looking for marriage. Your future marriage will be real, and any previous thought or statement of marriage or divorce will not affect your marriage.
Hasan ibn Ali (Allah be pleased with him) reported that the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him and give him peace) said, “Leave what makes you doubt for what does not make you doubt. Verily, truth brings peace of mind, and falsehood sows doubt.”
[Tirmidhi]
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Wassalam,
[Mawlana] Ilyas Patel
Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani
Mawlana Ilyas Patel is a traditionally-trained scholar who has studied in the UK, India, Pakistan, Syria, Jordan, and Turkey. He started his early education in the UK. He went on to complete the hifz of the Quran in India, then enrolled in an Islamic seminary in the UK, where he studied the secular and ‘Aalimiyya sciences. He then traveled to Karachi, Pakistan. He has been an Imam in Rep of Ireland for several years. He has taught hifz of the Quran, Tajwid, Fiqh, and many other Islamic sciences to children and adults onsite and online extensively in the UK and Ireland. He taught at a local Islamic seminary for 12 years in the UK, where he was a librarian and a teacher of Islamic sciences. He currently resides in the UK with his wife. His interest is a love of books and gardening.
