Is It Wrong to Not Be Optimistic About Finding a Spouse?

Answered by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Question: Assalamu alaykum

I don’t want to have children.

Is it wrong to think it will be more difficult for me to find a husband who doesn’t want children?

Is it a lack of trust in Allah?

Answer:  Walaikum assalam,

I hope you’re doing well, insha’Allah.

No, it is always good to have hope; a good opinion of Allah; and to take the means.

But it is best to prefer the Prophetic way and preferences to one’s inclinations and preferences. And from the Prophet’s way (Allah bless him and give him peace) is having children. Thus, one should prefer it, unless there are extenuating considerations to the contrary.

Please see: How Can I Stay Positive and Trust in Allah in Difficult Times? (Video) and: Islamic Parenting: Ten Keys to Raising Righteous Children – Faraz Rabbani – Vimeo

[Shaykh] Faraz Rabbani

Shaykh Faraz Rabbani is a scholar and researcher of Islamic law and Executive Director of SeekersHub Global After ten years overseas, Shaykh Faraz returned to Canada in the Summer of 2007. In May 2008 he founded SeekersHub Global to deal with the urgent need to spread Islamic knowledge—both online and on the ground—in a reliable, relevant, inspiring, and accessible manner. He has been repeatedly listed as one of the world’s 500 most influential Muslims (The Muslim500).