Is It a Conditional Divorce to Say “Shout at Me First” in Response to My Wife’s Demand for Divorce?
Hanafi Fiqh
Answered by Mawlana Ilyas Patel
Question
Does saying “Shout at me first” in response to my wife’s demand for divorce constitute a conditional divorce if I do not remember whether she shouted or not?
Answer
In the Name of Allah, the Most Merciful and Compassionate
I pray you are in good faith and health. Thank you for your question.
The above scenario will not constitute a conditional divorce as you mention you do not remember whether she shouted or not. Also, if she did, you still have to utter a statement of divorce after the shout.
Divorce Is a Serious Issue
Divorce is serious. Our religion has important rules about discussing it casually, especially in conditional terms.
People should stay calm when talking to their spouses and avoid using the word “divorce” lightly. Hasty decisions can lead to problems, while thoughtful consideration is a virtue from Allah, as the Prophet (Allah bless him and grant him peace) taught us.
Given the considerations in such cases, please consult reliable local scholars about the specifics of the situation.
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Wassalam,
[Mawlana] Ilyas Patel
Checked and Approved by Shaykh Abdul-Rahim Reasat
Mawlana Ilyas Patel is a traditionally-trained scholar who has studied in the UK, India, Pakistan, Syria, Jordan, and Turkey. He started his early education in the UK. He went on to complete the hifz of the Quran in India, then enrolled in an Islamic seminary in the UK, where he studied the secular and ‘Aalimiyya sciences. He then traveled to Karachi, Pakistan. He has been an Imam in Rep of Ireland for several years. He has taught hifz of the Quran, Tajwid, Fiqh, and many other Islamic sciences to children and adults onsite and online extensively in the UK and Ireland. He taught at a local Islamic seminary for 12 years in the UK, where he was a librarian and a teacher of Islamic sciences. He currently resides in the UK with his wife. His interest is a love of books and gardening.
