Was It Sinful for Me To Think of My Friend in an Unbecoming Manner?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad 

Question

I have a friend who follows a scholar who holds views that the scholars disapprove of.

I thought that this friend would question me about the age of Sayyida Aisha, and I decided to respond by saying that Allah knows best. Then I feared that I thought of my friend in an unbecoming manner.

Why did I think he would ask me that? And why did I prepare my response to him? Did I sin?

Answer

Thank you for your question.

It would be best if you did not fear your thoughts. There is nothing wrong with suspecting what he might ask you, and there is nothing wrong with preparing an answer.

However, I encourage you to study your religion to the best of your ability and keep your mind focused on the remembrance of Allah, Most High.

Please see these links about thoughts and dhikr and the age of Sayyidah A’isha.

• How old was Sayyida Aisha when she married the Prophet ﷺ? Islam FAQ with Shaykh Faraz Rabbani
• The Cure for Wayward Thoughts
• Types of Thought, Blasphemy, and Sin
• Remembrance of Allah Archives

May Allah give you the best of this world and the next.

[Ustadha] Shazia Ahmad
Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Ustadha Shazia Ahmad lived in Damascus, Syria, for two years, where she studied aqidah, fiqh, tajweed, Tafseer, and Arabic. She then attended the University of Texas at Austin, where she completed her Master’s in Arabic. Afterward, she moved to Amman, Jordan, where she studied fiqh, Arabic, and other sciences. She recently moved back to Mississauga, Canada, where she lives with her family.