Marrying a Christian Man With Good Character

Answered by Ustadha Zaynab Ansari Abdul-Razacq

Question: I’ve a friend who is Christian and we like each other a lot and he asked me to marry him. Since he is a very good human being, I would love to accept his proposal.He does not follow anything from his religion but he is a strong believer of Allah, and he also encourages me to pray Salat and follow my religion. How can I encourage him to convert and learn about Islam and help him to practice it.

Answer: In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful

Praise be to Allah, Lord of the Worlds. May the peace and blessings of Allah descend on the Prophet Muhammad, his family, his companions, and all who follow them.

Dear Sister,

Assalamu alaikum,

Thank you for your question. I pray you are in good health and iman.

Allah Most High says, “Do not marry unbelieving women (idolaters), until they believe: A slave woman who believes is better than an unbelieving woman, even though she allures you. Nor marry (your girls) to unbelievers until they believe: A man slave who believes is better than an unbeliever, even though he allures you. Unbelievers do (but) beckon you to the Fire. But Allah beckons by His Grace to the Garden (of bliss) and forgiveness, and makes His Signs clear to mankind: That they may celebrate His praise.” (2:221)

You should ask Allah to guide this person to Him and grant him to you as a spouse if it will be good for your deen and dunya.

But you must be firm with this person that your faith is above all else.

There are a number of resources he can access in order to learn about Islam, starting right here with SeekersGuidance.

However, you must take yourself out of it. Emotions cloud judgment. Introduce him to some Muslim brothers and leave it alone.

May Allah reward you,

Zaynab Ansari Abdul-Razacq
June 10, 2011/Rajab 9, 1432