How Can I Overcome My Porn Addiction?


Answered by Mawlana Ilyas Patel

Question

I am a male 21 years old and currently battling a porn addiction. Although I haven’t reached anywhere yet, thoughts have started to come, and the tough one for me is this hadith “If you were not going to sin, Allah would bring people who will sin and then ask forgiveness from Him.”

After this, I relapsed, thinking it will be like that, and other similar thoughts also affect me, which might take time to read, but I hope you understand my problem. I desperately want to overcome porn.

Answer

In the Name of Allah, the Most Merciful and Compassionate

I pray you are in good faith and health. Thank you for seeking guidance.

Abu Hurayra (Allah be pleased with him) reported the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him and give him peace) said, “By the One in whose hand is my soul, if you did not sin, Allah would replace you with people who would sin, and they would seek forgiveness from Allah, and He would forgive them.” [Muslim]

The ‘Ulama have explained that this hadith should not be understood as an encouragement to sin. Instead, it highlights Allah Most High’s mercy and forgiveness, and if one falls into sin, to repent and ask for forgiveness. Just as Allah Most High loves showing kindness to those who do good, He also loves forgiving those who have done wrong. This is why He sent prophets (and now the ‘ulama) to stop people from committing sins. [Abdul-Haq al-Dehlawi, Lama’at al-Tanqih Fi Sharh al-Mishkat]

Follow these guidelines, in sha Allah:

  • First and foremost, repent and seek forgiveness, and make a habit after falling in sin
  • Change your phone to a normal non-smartphone
  • be in good company, attend local masjid congregational prayers
  • attend circles of knowledge and remembrance
  • speak to reliable scholars for advice and counsel
  • Taking the following program specializes in assisting people in removing such addictions from their lives once and for all. See Purify Your Gaze

With all of the above, continue repenting from your past, with a firm resolve to never return, and pray the Prayer of Need (Salat al-Hajah) regularly, asking Allah Most to give you ease and success in every step of life, Amin

Check these links as well:
Purify Your Gaze – The Safe Place For Healing From Unwanted Sexual Behaviors – Purify Your Gaze
A Reader on Pornography and Masturbation – SeekersGuidance
pornography Archives – SeekersGuidance

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May Allah (Most High) give you ease and success to stay away from all kinds of sins and always find ways and means to keep you away from them, amin

I pray this helps with your question.

[Mawlana] Ilyas Patel
Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Mawlana Ilyas Patel is a traditionally-trained scholar who has studied within UK, India, Pakistan, Syria, Jordan and Turkey.

He started his early education in UK. He went onto complete hifz of Qur’an in India, then enrolled into an Islamic seminary in UK where he studied the secular and Alimiyyah sciences. He then travelled to Karachi, Pakistan.

He has been an Imam in Rep of Ireland for a number of years. He has taught hifz of the Qur’an, Tajwid, Fiqh and many other Islamic sciences to both children and adults onsite and online extensively in UK and Ireland. He was teaching at a local Islamic seminary for 12 years in the UK where he was a librarian and a teacher of Islamic sciences.

He currently resides in UK with his wife. His personal interest is love of books and gardening.