Is It Sinful to Limit a Child’s Contact with Grandparents Due to Moral Concerns?
Answered by Mawlana Ilyas Patel
Question
Is it sinful to prevent my 8-month-old son from visiting my parents, especially my mother, due to their moral issues, as my husband suggests waiting until he reaches the age of takleef?
Answer
In the Name of Allah, the Most Merciful and Compassionate
It is not sinful to prevent your son from staying at your parents’ house, particularly if you are concerned that it may negatively influence his religious values or expose him to haram practices. You can take and keep him under your supervision in such cases. This could also serve as a gradual means of achieving a positive change in their behavior. [Ibn ’Abidin, Radd al-Muhtar]
Persevering Effort and Continuous Dua
We pray that Allah Most High make our progeny “pure joy” as mentioned in the Quran and give us success in adopting the correct means to educate and nurture them. We should make the following Quranic dua:
رَبَّنَا هَبْ لَنَا مِنْ أَزْوَاجِنَا وَذُرِّيَّاتِنَا قُرَّةَ أَعْيُنٍ وَاجْعَلْنَا لِلْمُتَّقِينَ إِمَامًا
Transliteration: rabbana hablana min azwaajina wa dhuriyyatina qurrata A’yunin waj’alna lil- muttaqina imama
‘And those who say Our Lord, give us from our wives and successive generations of offspring a pure joy to set eyes upon for their righteousness; And make us to the godfearing an exemplar.’ [Quran, 25;74]
We pray that we can be worthy parents and teachers for our children who will carry this noble religion on, a precious trust to be handed from one generation to the next and not make us a weak link. Amin.
I would like you to go through the valuable answers and links below. In sha Allah, you will receive guidance and direction.
– What Are the Rules Related to My Non-Muslim Grandparents?
– What Are the Steps for Raising Children with an Islamic Upbringing?
– Raising Children with Deen and Dunya
– Prophetic Parenting Part 1 – Shaykh Faraz Rabbani
I pray this helps answer your question.
[Mawlan] Ilyas Patel
Checked and Approved by Shaykh Abdul-Rahim Reasat
Mawlana Ilyas Patel has received traditional education in various countries. He started his schooling in the UK and completed his hifz of the Quran in India. After that, he joined an Islamic seminary in the UK, where he studied secular and Aalimiyya sciences. Later, he traveled to Karachi, Pakistan, and other Middle Eastern countries to further his education. Mawlana has served as an Imam in the Republic of Ireland for several years and taught the Quran and other Islamic sciences to both children and adults. He also worked as a teacher and librarian at a local Islamic seminary in the UK for 12 years. Presently, he lives in the UK with his wife and is interested in books and gardening.
