Will I Go to Hell for Desiring Multiple Husbands in Paradise?
Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad
Question
I am a woman, and my desire for men is above average. I don’t act upon these desires due to the fear of Allah; I don’t indulge in anything haram, zina, chatting, or texting. I restrain myself in this worldly life. I read a verse that Allah will grant a person whatever they wish unless it is against Allah’s decision (like asking jahannamis (inhabitants of Hell) to enter Paradise). My only desire is to have multiple husbands in Janna, and it motivates me to do deeds of ihsan (excellence). I asked a Pakistani local imam about this, and he told me that I was going to the Hellfire for desiring more than one man. He asked me how would I feel if my mother had two husbands. I am very heartbroken. Am I going to be judged by the dunya in Paradise too?
Answer
Thank you for your question. No, you are not going to the Hellfire because you have a desire for multiple husbands. Allah rewards good deeds and does not punish one’s hidden desires.
Allah (Most High) has told us in the Quran, “Those who did well will have the best reward and more besides. Neither darkness nor shame will cover their faces: these are the companions in Paradise, and there they will remain.” [Quran, 10:26]
Restraint
Your restraint is commendable, and I pray that you can continue on this path of strong faith, excellence, and goodness in your life. I encourage you to trust in Allah’s rewards and believe that you will be completely fulfilled, pleased, and satisfied in the next world with one husband, though you may not be able to imagine or understand it now.
Allah (Most High) has told us in the Quran, “Indeed, the Muslim men and Muslim women, the believing men and believing women, the obedient men and obedient women, the truthful men and truthful women, the patient men and patient women, the humble men and humble women, the charitable men and charitable women, the fasting men and fasting women, the men who guard their private parts and the women who do so, and the men who remember Allah often and the women who do so – for them Allah has prepared forgiveness and a great reward.” [Quran, 33:35]
Abu Hurayra reported that the Prophet (Allah bless him and give him peace) said, “Allah said: ‘I have prepared for My righteous servants what no eye has seen, what no ear has heard, and what no human heart has conceived. Recite the verse if you wish: No soul knows what has been hidden for them of comfort.’” [Quran, 32:17] [Bukhari & Muslim]
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Ustadha Shazia Ahmad lived in Damascus, Syria, for two years, where she studied aqidah, fiqh, tajweed, tafsir, and Arabic. She then attended the University of Texas at Austin and completed her Master’s in Arabic. Afterward, she moved to Amman, Jordan, where she studied fiqh, Arabic, and other sciences. She later moved back to Mississauga, Canada, where she lives with her family.