What Is the Ruling If a Man Touches His Sister with Lust?
Hanafi Fiqh
Answered by Mawlana Ilyas Patel
Question
Will a married man’s lustful touch on his sister’s buttocks and breasts, as well as rubbing his private part on her buttocks (with clothes on) until he ejaculates, nullify his marriage with his wife?
Bearing in mind that there was no actual touching of the private parts outside of the clothes.
Answer
In the Name of Allah, the Most Merciful and Compassionate.
I pray you are in good faith and health.
Disclaimer
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Ruling
As mentioned above, if a married man touches his sister desirously, it is a grave sin. However, one ‘s wife will not become forbidden upon him. He should deeply and sincerely repent and seek forgiveness profusely. [Ibn ’Abidin, Radd al-Muhtar]
Repentance and Seeking Help
One should continue to repent and seek forgiveness. Ibn Umar (Allah be pleased with him) reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “O people, turn to Allah in repentance. Verily, I repent to Him one hundred times in a day.” [Muslim]
We should always maintain decency in dress and conduct – for both men and women – within the family, too. If one has thoughts about family members, one needs to repent, seek Allah’s forgiveness from any active thinking with desire about them, and if one struggles, immediately seek qualified counsel from scholars, as the personal or familial harm of such desires is devastating for all.
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I pray this helps with your question.
Wassalam,
[Mawlana] Ilyas Patel
Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani
Mawlana Ilyas Patel is a traditionally-trained scholar who has studied in the UK, India, Pakistan, Syria, Jordan, and Turkey. He started his early education in the UK. He went on to complete the hifz of the Quran in India, then enrolled in an Islamic seminary in the UK, where he studied the secular and ‘Aalimiyya sciences. He then traveled to Karachi, Pakistan. He has been an Imam in Rep of Ireland for several years. He has taught hifz of the Quran, Tajwid, Fiqh, and many other Islamic sciences to children and adults onsite and online extensively in the UK and Ireland. He taught at a local Islamic seminary for 12 years in the UK, where he was a librarian and a teacher of Islamic sciences. He currently resides in the UK with his wife. His interest is a love of books and gardening.
Arabic References
فصل في المحرمات
وَفِي الْخُلَاصَةِ: وَطِئَ أُخْتَ امْرَأَتِهِ لَا تَحْرُمُ عَلَيْهِ امْرَأَتُهُ (لَا) تَحْرُمُ (الْمَنْظُورُ إلَى فَرْجِهَا الدَّاخِلِ) إذَا رَآهُ (مِنْ مِرْآةٍ أَوْ مَاءٍ) لِأَنَّ الْمَرْئِيَّ مِثَالُهُ (بِالِانْعِكَاسِ) لَا هُوَ (هَذَا إذَا كَانَتْ حَيَّةً مُشْتَهَاةً) وَلَوْ مَاضِيًا (أَمَّا غَيْرُهَا) يَعْنِي الْمَيِّتَةَ وَصَغِيرَةً لَمْ تُشْتَهَ (فَلَا) تَثْبُتُ الْحُرْمَةُ بِهَا أَصْلًا كَوَطْءِ دُبُرٍ مُطْلَقًا وَكَمَا لَوْ أَفْضَاهَا
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ص34 – كتاب حاشية ابن عابدين رد المحتار ط الحلبي – فروع طلق امرأته تطليقتين ولها منه لبن فاعتدت فنكحت صغيرا فأرضعته فحرمت عليه فنكحت آخر فدخل بها – المكتبة الشاملة
