Ustadha Shazia Ahmad

October 15, 2023 2 mins

How Do I Find Balance When I Deal with the Guilt of My Sins?

Answered by Ustada Shazia Ahmad Question I have been struggling with an infrequent sin. When it does happen, I tend to feel so guilty that I feel guilty doing my normal tasks like reading a book or studying or watching a TV show, although they have nothing to do with the sin. I drop everything […]
October 15, 2023 3 mins

Aren’t the Children, Boys and Girls, Supposed to Be Treated Equally?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Throughout my life, I’ve seen parents, grandparents, and other adults in my life treat the boys better than the girls. They give them better food, let them lounge when the girls do chores, and other similar things. I tried talking about it but was easily dismissed as making a […]
October 15, 2023 6 mins

How Can I Ask My Friend to Stop Backbiting about Someone Who Wronged Her?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I told my friend that if someone wrongs another, one can speak about it to express sadness about it. But she took it to mean that if someone wrongs someone, one can backbite about them. I am no longer friends with her, but she still uses what I said […]
October 15, 2023 4 mins

My Brother Molested Me. Am I Guilty?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question When I was 13 years old and my brother was 15, he started doing strange things to me in the night, like kissing me and my body and rubbing his body against mine and touching my private parts. This continued off and on and then he suddenly stopped 3 […]
October 15, 2023 1 min

Is It Permissible to Buy Makeup from Someone Who Is Said to Be Part of a Secret ...

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Would it be permissible to buy makeup products owned by a celebrity? For example, a famous mainstream celebrity has a makeup line, but it is said this celebrity is part of a secret cult. I would not get it because it is her brand but because of the makeup […]
October 15, 2023 3 mins

What Are My Duties as the Eldest Son as I Don’t Have a Father?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I am the eldest son with no father; I have a mother and three younger siblings. What duty do I have in regard to telling them what to do and what not to do? My sister has a friend of the opposite gender whom she calls regularly and meets. […]
October 15, 2023 3 mins

How Can I Make Friends or Find a Husband to Solve My Loneliness?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I am an 18-year-old girl in college, and I just basically lost one of my best friends. I was already feeling lonely before I lost her, but now I feel even more alone because I don’t have her anymore, and I don’t have many friends. I seem to be […]
October 15, 2023 2 mins

What Should I Learn Now That I Have Converted?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Hi, I’ve just become a Muslim. I need to know what courses I should learn first. Also, are there any restrictions for mental and physical disabilities? I have Fibromyalgia, Arthritis, Diabetes 2, chronic long-term depression, and social anxiety. I use a stick and mobility scooter. I’m on medication that […]
October 15, 2023 3 mins

Am I Not Getting a Job Because Allah Is Angry with Me?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I’ve been trying to apply for a job for years. Just when I think I’ll get it, after constant job interviews, I always get rejected. I make dua for a job, I pray tahajjud and still, I fail. I feel like giving up; what shall I do? Is this […]
October 14, 2023 2 mins

Should I Marry a Man Who Has High-Functioning Autism?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I am a female who has been in the marriage search for the last four years, and I am now 29 years old. My family and I have finally come across what seems to be an ideal suitor: very kind, professional, committed to religion, with a supportive family, etc. […]
October 14, 2023 3 mins

How Should I Treat My Friends of the Opposite Gender Who Don’t Dress Modestly?

Answered by Ustadah Shazia Ahmad   Question I have been practicing Islam for over one year now. I have friends, especially female friends, who don’t observe hijab and sometimes wear beach wear, and low waist sarees. What should be my approach/character towards them? Should I break my bonds with them or be more friendly with […]
October 13, 2023 1 min

Does a Woman Have to Wear a Hijab around Male Staff in Her Home?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question If a Muslim family is wealthy enough to hire domestic staff and some of them are male, are the women required to wear hijab in their staff’s presence? It seems it would be impractical and a hardship to always have to wear hijab in your own home. Answer Thank […]
October 13, 2023 3 mins

How Should One Prepare for Judgement Day?

Answered by Ustadah Shazia Ahmad Question How Should One Prepare for Judgement Day? Answered Thank you for your question. May Allah aid us all in preparing for Judgment day and envelop us in his mercy and forgiveness. Love Anas, may Allah be pleased with him, narrated that a man asked the Prophet (Allah bless him […]
October 13, 2023 2 mins

Who Will Take Care of My Parents If I Marry?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I get really worried thinking about what’s next in life. I am soon to be married. We are two children to my parents, my elder brother, and myself. My brother is married and does not assume responsibility. My father had to help him build his house upstairs and my […]
October 13, 2023 3 mins

Is Having a Daughter Considered a Burden in Islam?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question Are girls considered a burden and trial in Islam? There is a hadith that people often cite to suggest that girls are considered a blessing in Islam, which is about the reward for raising daughters/sisters, and how daughters will be a shield from the hell fire. But isn’t this […]
October 13, 2023 2 mins

How Do I Deal with Pressure from My Fellow Film Students in Greece?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I am a film student in Greece, and everyone around me is a non-believer: atheist, or agnostic. Even the Christians support things like LGBTQ, peer pressuring me to also join them in watching movies like “Portrait of a Lady on Fire” and “The Blue Caftan,” which are very haram. […]
October 13, 2023 3 mins

Shouldn’t My Husband Do Chores in His Free Time to Help Me?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I am a Muslima homemaker. My husband works in a company and provides for us, and I do housework. On Sundays, he is free all day, but he doesn’t help me with housework. Is it my job to do housework only because he provides for us? Shouldn’t he help […]
October 13, 2023 4 mins

Should I Marry a Suitor Who Won’t Provide Me Financially with What I Grew Up W...

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I met a suitor who is employed and can cover the bare minimum maintenance for a wife (basic shelter, basic food, etc.). His preference is I work and spend on any extras (furnishing house, car, extras for children) as I make more money than him. I have always lived […]
October 12, 2023 4 mins

What Should I Do After Falling in Love with a Girl Despite Being Married?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I am a married man with three children. I am 36 years old, and I have been married for eight years. Last year, I fell in love with a girl who is 25 years old and single. Initially, we knew each other as acquaintances, but slowly, we grew closer […]
October 12, 2023 3 mins

How To Start Wearing a Hijab?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I try to dress modestly and I want to start wearing the hijab soon. I was planning on starting it slowly as lately I would go out wearing a hood over my head and pull the drawstrings so my hair and my neck are covered. Should I just start […]
October 12, 2023 3 mins

Can I Allow My Wife To Post Her Pictures on Instagram?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I own a marketing company and provide social media marketing to businesses. To gain credibility in my services, I also promote my own account. Recently, I’ve had a discussion with my wife, and she thinks it’s hypocritical of me to promote myself online while not allowing her to post […]
October 12, 2023 3 mins

Is It Permissible To Modestly Dress Up and Bake a Cake for Our Nikah?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I am currently planning a wedding. We both would like a simple wedding with immediate family at the masjid, small and inexpensive. But he is under the impression that we will just go to the masjid at random and do a nikah. Whenever I bring up a wedding date, […]
October 10, 2023 2 mins

Can I Choose an English Name for My Child?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I am a white British revert, and my husband has Muslim Kashmiri heritage. Although my family is not Muslim, I would like to acknowledge my children’s dual heritage through their names if it’s permissible and has the same baraka. I know the best names are ‘Abdullah, ‘Abdur-Rahman, then the […]
October 10, 2023 2 mins

Should I Be Avoiding the Music That I Hear in Videos and TV Shows?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I am suffering from waswasa with music. This recently started and I know it is OCD. Whenever my family plays music, I would be fine and block it out, but now whenever I hear music, even in a video that I put on, I immediately listen to it while […]
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