Can I Still Marry the Girl That I Slept With?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad

Question

I slept with the girl I want to marry. This gravely troubles us. Can we still get married? We have sincerely repented with deep regret.

Answer

Thank you for your question. It is still permissible for you to marry the girl that you slept with. You have made your repentance (tawba) and I pray that Allah Most High forgives you both.

It would be wise to hasten this marriage to ensure that the two of you do not sin again. Also, remember that you should hide this sin, and not tell anyone at all about it. If the girl has fallen pregnant, then it is more urgent to marry her soon. Otherwise, accusations, pain, and embarrassment may come your way.

The Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him and give him peace) said, “Allah, Blessed is He and Most High, said, ‘O son of Adam! Verily as long as you called upon Me and hoped in Me, I forgave you, despite whatever may have occurred from you, and I did not mind. O son of Adam! Were your sins to reach the clouds of the sky, then you sought forgiveness from Me, I would forgive you, and I would not mind. So the son of Adam! If you came to Me with sins nearly as great as the earth, and then you met Me not associating anything with Me, I would come to you with forgiveness nearly as great as it.’” [Tirmidhi]

May Allah join you both in a blessed and halal union and give you both the best of both worlds.

[Ustadha] Shazia Ahmad
Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Ustadha Shazia Ahmad lived in Damascus, Syria for two years where she studied aqida, fiqh, tajweed, tafsir, and Arabic. She then attended the University of Texas at Austin, where she completed her Masters in Arabic. Afterward, she moved to Amman, Jordan where she studied fiqh, Arabic, and other sciences. She later moved back to Mississauga, Canada, where she lives with her family.