How Do I Deal With My Muslim Friend Who Is a Lesbian?

How do I deal with my Muslim friend who is a lesbian?

Dear questioner,

May Allah bless you and increase you in good.

I am sorry to hear this news from your friend. As you stated correctly, the act is forbidden clearly [haram], and we must hate the act.

As far as your friend who is a Muslim and doing this, this is very dangerous.

A couple of factors to consider; if this friend considers it permissible to be lesbian, then this is wrong and haram according to the laws of the One who created us. If your friend does not believe that but is weak in her faith and wants to stop and distance herself from this act, that is praiseworthy. If she is genuine in her repentance, then it is rewarded by Allah.

He says in the Quran, “Except for those who repent and believe and do good deeds. These—God will replace their bad deeds with good deeds. God is ever Forgiving and Merciful.” [Qur’an 25:70]

If she is not willing to change and does not want to repent, then you should not be her friend.

The Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) said, “A person is on the religion of his close friend, so let him carefully examine whom he befriends.” [Abu Dawud]

Allah also says in the Quran, “On that Day, friends will be enemies of one another, except for the righteous.” [Qur’an 43:67]

People who used to assist and invite to the disobedience of Allah will be enemies and blame one another for their sins. May Allah save us from such company.

You are in a position to help your friend, tell them to repent, and to give up this sin. Eventually, it will ruin her and lead her to the punishment of Allah.

Do not be stern necessarily, but use wisdom. You can not stay quiet and accept what she is doing; this is detrimental to your faith. If you are too shy and can not do that, then find someone who can, and perhaps, their advice may change her mind and lead to repentance. Do not give up on her, help her. If you see it is not going anywhere, then, like I said earlier, move on and keep praying for her.

Allah knows best.

[Imam] Yama Niazi

Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani