Will Some Thoughts with Breathing Have an Effect on Marriage?

Answered by Mawlana Ilyas Patel

Question

If somebody has a thought and then breathes in/out while having this thought, and he imagines that this breathing sounds like the thought but without actually forming any letters with his mouth/tongue, will this then have any effect on his marriage?

Answer

In the Name of Allah, the Most Merciful and Compassionate.

I pray you are in good faith and health. Thank you for your question.

It will have no effect on your marriage. This is just an obtrusive thought. Don’t worry at all when this type of thought enters your mind, just do the following:

Say the ta‘awwudh, which is:

”أَعُوذُ بِاللَّهِ مِنَ الشَّيطَانِ الرَّجِيمِ“

“I seek refuge in Allah from the rejected devil.”

Recite the muwadhtain (Surat al-Nas and al-Falaq) regularly for protection against misgivings. Also, keep your tongue moist with this dua:

“.اَللّٰھُمَّ اجْعَلْ وَسَاوِسَ قَلْبِیْ خَشْیَتَكَ وَ ذِکْرَكَ وَاجْعَلْ ھِمَّتِیْ وَھَوَایٰ فِیْمَـا تُـحِبُّ وَ تَرْضٰی”

“O Allah! Render the thoughts and inclinations within my heart to be Your fear and remembrance, and let my endeavor and desire be devoted to what You love and are pleased with.”  [Daylami, Musnad al-Firdaws]

Do not look back, continue with your day. In other words, busy yourself and your mind before Shaytan tries to take over.

Trust in Allah, remember that the companions also suffered from misgivings, and they challenged and continued because the Prophet (Allah bless him and give him peace) said they (misgivings)are clear and pure faith.

May Allah help you in your time of difficulty, cure you of your misgivings, and give you – and all of us – good health. Do not worry; in time, you will be relieved from the whisperings in sha’ Allah.

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I pray this helps with your question.
Wassalam,
[Mawlana] Ilyas Patel
Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Mawlana Ilyas Patel is a traditionally trained scholar who has studied in the UK, India, Pakistan, Syria, Jordan, and Turkey. He started his early education in the UK. He went on to complete the hifz of the Quran in India, then enrolled in an Islamic seminary in the UK, where he studied the secular and ‘Aalimiyya sciences. He then traveled to Karachi, Pakistan. He has been an Imam in Rep of Ireland for several years. He has taught hifz of the Quran, Tajwid, Fiqh, and many other Islamic sciences to children and adults onsite and online extensively in the UK and Ireland. He taught at a local Islamic seminary for 12 years in the UK, where he was a librarian and a teacher of Islamic sciences. He currently resides in the UK with his wife. His interest is a love of books and gardening.