Will My Dua Be Accepted If It’s About My Girlfriend That I Love?
Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad
Question
I’m dating a girl, and I’m deeply in love, but I don’t know if I can trust her. If I supplicate, “Ya Allah, you are the All-knowing, so if she’s bad for me but didn’t do anything bad yet, change her, make her good for me, and make her mine. If she’s bad for me and has already done something bad, I wouldn’t be able to forgive, take her away from me forcefully, no matter how much I love her, and make it painless. If she’s good for me, didn’t do anything bad, and won’t in the future, keep us together.”
So, just in case she’s bad for me and already did something bad, I want Allah to take her away from me, no matter how much I love her and want her to stay and make it painless. In that case, please make us break up somehow. Would this dua be accepted?
Answer
Thank you for your question. May Allah give you the strength to prioritize your Lord’s pleasure over your whimsical desires and leave the haram for the halal.
Dating
Dating is not permitted in Islam, so I urge you to leave her and find a religious girl who will do a good job at bringing spirituality into your life and the lives of your children. Repent for having a girlfriend, and I believe you know from your question, that she is not the right one for you to marry. Love has nothing to do with what you really need. Your lust for this girl is blinding you. I don’t know if your dua will be accepted, but it is disrespectful of you to ask Allah to guide you about a relationship that He doesn’t permit.
The Prophet (Allah bless him and grant him peace) said, “Your love for a thing causes blindness and deafness.” [Abu Dawud]
Please see these links as well:
- Can I Marry My Secret Girlfriend?
- Why Does Islam Not Allow Boyfriends and Girlfriends?
- I Am in an Impermissible but Healthy Relationship. What Should I Do?
May Allah give you the best of this world and the next.
[Ustadha] Shazia Ahmad
Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani
Ustadha Shazia Ahmad lived in Damascus, Syria, for two years, where she studied aqidah, fiqh, tajweed, tafsir, and Arabic. She then attended the University of Texas at Austin and completed her Master’s in Arabic. Afterward, she moved to Amman, Jordan, where she studied fiqh, Arabic, and other sciences. She later moved back to Mississauga, Canada, where she lives with her family.
