What Are Some of the Etiquette of Intimacy in the Shafi’i School?

Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad

Question

I am planning on learning the Shafi‘i madhab. Could you please advise me on the rules of sexual intimacy in the Shafi’i madhab?

Answer

Thank you for your question. May Allah facilitate your journey in learning this school of thought. Please see the courses linked below for your convenience.

Overview

Your question is quite broad, so here is a quick overview, and some of this is shared by other schools. Please take your time to read the relevant links:

A man should be conscious of his wife’s conjugal rights in the same way that he knows about her financial rights:

• What Does Islam Say About the Neglect of the Wife’s Sexual Rights?

A man should make an effort to give his wife climax as per the Prophetic advice:

• My Husband Does Not Satisfy Me During Marital Relations. What Can I Do?

Oral intercourse is permitted in the Shafi‘i school:

• Is It Permissible To Perform Oral Sex to One’s Wife? [Shafi’i School]
• Can a Wife Perform Oral Sex on Her Husband? (Shafi’i School)
• Bedroom Fiqh: Oral Sex

Resources for Learning Shafi fiqh

Please consider taking these excellent and valuable courses and don’t hesitate to follow up with questions on the course forums or through the Q/A service:

• Getting Started with Your Belief and Practice : Habshi’s Encompassing Epistle Explained (Shafi‘i)

May Allah give you the best of this world and the next.

[Ustadha] Shazia Ahmad
Checked and Approved by Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

Ustadha Shazia Ahmad lived in Damascus, Syria, for two years, where she studied aqidah, fiqh, tajweed, Tafseer, and Arabic. She then attended the University of Texas at Austin, where she completed her Master’s in Arabic. Afterward, she moved to Amman, Jordan, where she studied fiqh, Arabic, and other sciences. She recently moved back to Mississauga, Canada, where she lives with her family.